“Our greatest duty and our main duty is to help others.” And then he smiled a little bit and said, “And please if you can’t help them, would you please not hurt them?”

– Dali Lama quote from Leo Buscaglia’s book “Living, Loving, Learning”

Reminds me of the old saying “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything!”
Really, how is your judgement or criticism going to make me a better person?
Your love and encouragement however, can help me move mountains.
Or at least feel good enough to clean up the house, take out the trash, change the oil in the car,  do all of the laundry, chop some wood, and be happy about it.