“You know, Rick, I have many a friend in Casablanca, but somehow, just because you despise me, you are the only one I trust.”
-Peter Lorre in Casablanca

Trust is a funny thing. You don’t have to like somebody to trust them. In fact if I had to choose, I would rather trust you than like you. Then there’s people you can always trust to screw things up. Without fail. There are people I can always trust to make me feel better. Some people I can trust will ALWAYS do exactly what they say they are going to do, for better or for worse. They are all my friends. Without trust of some sort, there can be no friendship. If I cannot trust you, why would I even wantto be your friend?

“In a one-to-one relationship with another person, the killers of love are disappointment and resentment. Disappointment is like drops of water that can eventually eat away a stone.”
-kevansindeep.wordpress.com

Every broken trust, every broken word, every time you say you will do something and you don’t, Or say you won’t do it and them you do it anyways, is another dissapointment that leads to resentment.

“Our greatest duty and our main duty is to help others.” And then he smiled a little bit and said, “And please if you can’t help them, would you please not hurt them?”

– Dali Lama quote from Leo Buscaglia’s book “Living, Loving, Learning”

Reminds me of the old saying “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything!”
Really, how is your judgement or criticism going to make me a better person?
Your love and encouragement however, can help me move mountains.
Or at least feel good enough to clean up the house, take out the trash, change the oil in the car,  do all of the laundry, chop some wood, and be happy about it.